Roughinamorato in Seattle Dec. 10-13!

Roughinamorato is a charmingly sadistic bastard who firmly believes that kink should be fun; just because you’re beating or torturing someone doesn’t mean you can’t both have a good laugh between the screams. He’s been presenting and teaching in the vanilla world as a software geek for over 15 years, and active and presenting in the BDSM scene since 2006.

He runs Rough Crowd, a monthly rough body play workshop in Chicago, and takes that knowledge on the road with the Rough Crowd Road Trip. We are very pleased to be the next stop on his current tour around North America. From Thursday December 10 through Sunday December 13, the Foundation will host Roughinamorato for five workshops about Rough Body Play.

There are lots of ticket packages designed to save you money and help you focus on your interests. Ticket links are below. For full workshop descriptions, please visit our calendar.

Rough Body Play Series

roughcrowdfinalThursday, December 10 – 7:00pm
It’s OK to Hit Them ~ Educator: Roughinamorato
FSPC Studio: $25 Advance: $20 (Solo)

Friday, December 11 – 7:00pm
Hot and Hard: Combining Cigar Play & Rough Body Play ~ Educator: Roughinamorato
FSPC Studio: Duo tickets only $50 Advance: $40
[Limited to 10 Duos – Cigars will be used in this workshop.]

Rough Cigar sepiaSaturday, December 12 – 7:00pm
Fundamentals of Rough Body Play ~ Educator: Roughinamorato
CSPC Annex & RAW: $40. Advance: $32

Sunday, December 13 – 12:00pm
Advanced Rough Body Play: Backhanding ~ Educator: Roughinamorato
CSPC Main: $25. Advance: $20

Sunday, December 13 – 2:00pm
Violent Displays of Affection ~ Educator: Roughinamorato
CSPC Main: $25. Advance: $20

Topping From The Inside Out


We are pleased to host another guest blog post by Ruin, who has a workshop coming up on December 7th, So You Wanna Be a Top.

Topping from the Inside Out

When I began teaching in the sex-positive community, I was inspired to create classes that addressed subjects no one had taught me about when I first came into the BDSM scene. So You Wanna Be a Top is one of those classes.

When I ventured into the kink community, I was 100%, through-and-through, strictly a bottom. I could not imagine ever wanting to top. I enjoyed bottoming far too much. As I spent more time at the Center for Sex Positive Culture, and played with more and more people, I also watched more and more people playing. My curiosity grew, as did my confidence. That is when I began toying with the idea of giving the whole topping thing a try.

I still remember the very first scene I ever topped. I had the how-tos, what are also known as hard skills – how to flog, how to punch, how to cane, how to pierce, etc. Where I was not as strong were the soft skills, things like:RuinPresenterPic

understanding my motivation as a top
recognizing my topping style
finding compatible bottoms
managing my own top-drop

So while my first topping scene went fine externally, knowing what I know now, there were many things I could have done differently that would have improved the experience for both top and bottom internally.

Speaking of top and bottom, having the added experience of topping has given me a far greater appreciation for those who top me. Those who identify strictly as bottoms may also find So You Wanna Be a Top . . . valuable, as it will give them insight into the topping experience. That insight can lead to greater compassion, gratitude, patience, and connection between bottom and top.

I believe having a balance of both the hard and soft skills is one of the things that separates a good top from an excellent top. Another thing I believe separates good from excellent is acknowledging the ethics and responsibilities of a top. There is so much more to a scene than merely what the top is doing to the bottom. Yes, it is play. Yes, it is meant to be fun. So is sky diving. That is a form of play, and fun, and we know better than to disregard important aspects of skydiving, like gravity, and the ground. In kink, we cannot disregard the fact that we are dealing with human beings, not dolls, not robots, but real people. Real people have real thoughts and emotions that tops must be ready and willing to manage, including their own.

So You Wanna Be a Top sets the implements aside, and takes a deeper look at the whys and what fors of the topping experience. Whatever role you identify with – top, bottom, switch, or unsure – this workshop provides a safe space for exploring what you want, why you want it, and how to get it, ethically and responsibly.

So You Wanna Be a Top is presented by the Foundation for Sex Positive Culture, and hosted by the Center for Sex Positive Culture. A full description of the workshop, plus the instructor’s bio and ticketing information can be found here.

Stronger Than You Think, part 2 – Saturday!

We have been getting a lot of questions about the Cock and Ball Torture (CBT) class coming up on Saturday November 28th at 2pm.

Here are some answers that will hopefully lure you into a post-Thanksgiving good time!

slendersub1018 027crop1. Yes, this class is open to all genders and orientations. Since it is a hands-on CBT class, it is a good idea that at least one partner have either cock or ball(s).

2. Yes, you do need basic safety and anatomy as related to CBT information before you take this class. If you didn’t get a chance to take part one, you can join us for the Anatomy Refresher at 1pm, or email and request a waiver to attend part two because you already have that basic info.

3. No, you do not have to be a CSPC member to attend the CBT themed party after the Stronger Than You Think class. As an FSPC workshop attendee, you will be a special guest to the party. Please bring your legal ID showing you are 18+.

4. Yes, you can purchase tickets at the door. We have a preference for people to purchase tickets in advance online or at the Library, so that our educator can make sure to have enough supplies on hand for the practical portion of the class.

See you Saturday!